Concept: Athleisure Look
Adidas blazer
Bottoms by Sugarfree
Stella McCartney hat
Calvin Klein shades
Love
FlowerGirl : )
Monday, March 20, 2017
Friday, March 17, 2017
OOTD :)
Friday Vibes
Let The Weekend Begin
Green velvet pants by Sugarfree
Knit by Golden Days
Cardigan by Zara
Ankle boots by SanteShoes
Love
FlowerGirl:)
Thursday, March 16, 2017
OOTN : )
About Last Night
Rocking this dress
Gray knitted with lace dress by Lucy Wang
Nude pointed heels by Ladida
Gray silver bag by
Warehouse
Love
FlowerGirl
Wednesday, March 15, 2017
Being positive : )
5 Anger Management Tricks That Make You Peaceful Again
Next time you're angry do these things....
''Anger management is the process of learning to recognize signs that you're becoming angry, and taking action to calm down and deal with the situation in a positive way. Anger management doesn't try to keep you from feeling anger or encourage you to hold it in.
Anger is a normal, healthy emotion when you know how to express it appropriately - anger management is about learning how to do this'' - The Mayo Clinic
While the above quote may be lengthy, it provides perhaps the most concise description of what constitutes ''anger management''. It's not the denial anger, nor the attempt to suppress any feelings that may surface about the emotion. Anger management is about learning how to deal with anger.Many of us have either experienced recurrent bouts of uncontrollable anger or known someone close to us who has. Tragically, the end-result of elevated, irrepressible anger is too often emotionally and physically Many deaths at the hands of someone else have been attributed to ''fits of rage'' or something similar.
We all experience this surge of anger - to various degrees - from time to time.
Perhaps it's when someone cuts us off in traffic, when a family member instigates conflict, or when a co-worker refuses to work together amicably. In these and many other scenarios, the temptation to resort to anger is highly compelling. Should a strong surge of anger rise, it's best to accept its presence and handle it. This brings us to the topic of this article: managing anger effectively.
Let's get down to it.
Here are 5 anger management techniques that''ll help keep you at peace:
Next time you're angry do these things....
''Anger management is the process of learning to recognize signs that you're becoming angry, and taking action to calm down and deal with the situation in a positive way. Anger management doesn't try to keep you from feeling anger or encourage you to hold it in.
Anger is a normal, healthy emotion when you know how to express it appropriately - anger management is about learning how to do this'' - The Mayo Clinic
While the above quote may be lengthy, it provides perhaps the most concise description of what constitutes ''anger management''. It's not the denial anger, nor the attempt to suppress any feelings that may surface about the emotion. Anger management is about learning how to deal with anger.Many of us have either experienced recurrent bouts of uncontrollable anger or known someone close to us who has. Tragically, the end-result of elevated, irrepressible anger is too often emotionally and physically Many deaths at the hands of someone else have been attributed to ''fits of rage'' or something similar.
We all experience this surge of anger - to various degrees - from time to time.
Perhaps it's when someone cuts us off in traffic, when a family member instigates conflict, or when a co-worker refuses to work together amicably. In these and many other scenarios, the temptation to resort to anger is highly compelling. Should a strong surge of anger rise, it's best to accept its presence and handle it. This brings us to the topic of this article: managing anger effectively.
Let's get down to it.
Here are 5 anger management techniques that''ll help keep you at peace:
- Identify a possible outlet: Rather than focusing on the thing that made you angry, make a conscious effort to resolve the issue. Is your child's erratic behavior making you upset? Find something that will keep them occupied. Is your friend or family member doing something that pushes your buttons? Calm down and have a constructive dialogue or set some definite boundaries. Remain consciously aware of the fact that unchecked anger resolves nothing. In fact, the results is often much worse. Breathe deeply, maintain some self-disciple, and thing of a rational solution.
- Forgive and (maybe) forget: Forgiveness is one of the most powerful antidotes to resentment. Allowing anger and other negative thoughts and feelings to distort and disrupt daily life ultimately leads to nothing more than bitterness, anger, and pessimism. If you can forgive someone who brought about feelings of anger, you''ll both learn a valuable lesson. For you, the ability to forgive will reemphasize the truth that nobody can determine your state of mind. For the offender, the tolerance you exhibit may just be enough to remind them of the importance of remaining true to one's word. Should such a person repeatedly betray your sense of compassion, it's probably time to reconsider the relationship.Depending upon the frequency of mistrust and the nature of the offense(s), prioritizing forgiving rather that forgetting may be the best (and healthiest) solution.
- Improve your listening skills: Holding your listening skills may seem like an irrelevant solution, but hear us out. When we're active listeners, we instantly improve the communication between person and us. This builds trust, and this trust can help mitigate potentially hostile thoughts and emotions. Demonstrating to another that you're truly listening accomplishes three things: (1) it shows that you care, (2) it shows that the other person's thoughts and emotions matter, and (3) it establishes or reinforces feelings of empathy. Sometimes, a person that's all worked up simply needs to be understood. Active listening accomplishes this need for understanding and much more.
- Practice relaxation: According to the American Psychological Association (APA), relaxation techniques ''such as deep breathing and relaxing imagery can help calm down angry feelings''. The APA provides some specific practices that may help: - Breathe deeply from the diaphragm, as ''chest breathing'' will not promote relaxation. - Repeat reassuring words, such as ''take it easy'', ''relax'' and ''I'm in control'' may help. It is recommended to practice deep breathing during this exercise. - Using imagery, visualize something that provokes relaxation - either from experience or imagination. - Non strenuous exercises (e.g. yoga, meditation, tai-chi), can assist with relaxing the muscles while promoting relaxation.
- Cognitive Restructuring: Angry people tend to swear, curse, or act erratically when confronted with a stress-or. The problem here is obvious - such behavior fuels bitter notions and renders impossible any potential solution. Cognitive restructuring involves nothing more than changing the way we think. The reason this method is so effective, as it pertains to anger management, dramatized and exaggerated when we're angry. Here's a practical example. We're waiting in line at our favorite coffee spot when the customer facing the cashier complains that their order is messed up. Understanding that resolving this problem will take time, a cynical monologue begins to surface in our minds. Instead of saying ''This sucks'', ''I'm going to be late'', recognize the situation and rationally replace them with something like ''This situation is out of my control'', ''I''ll remain calm, and they'll eventually figure it out'', etc.
When we make the conscious attempt to rationalize such thoughts, a favorable, outcome is much more likely.
More importantly, when we practice this - and other techniques - and other techniques described above - we invite peace and contentment instead of anger and other negative states of mind.
Tuesday, March 14, 2017
About Life : )
When I give, it does not come with
strings. I'm not keeping track of
what you owe me. When i give,
I choose to do so without ulterior
motives. I give because I'm genuine.
I give because I know what it's like
to be without, to long for and be
ignored, to speak and not be heard,
to car fr and have nothing
returned. When I give it's because
I get it. It's because I know the value
in what I have in my heart and I
refuse to let the world stop me from
sharing that. But when things start
being taken for granted. When you
no longer appreciate my sincerity.
I won't switch, I won't get angry, and
I won't be spiteful. I'll just get smart
and I'll change your role in my life.
Because when I give, I'm all in.
But when I'm done, there's no
looking back.
-Robert Hill Sr.
Love
FlowerGirl : )
strings. I'm not keeping track of
what you owe me. When i give,
I choose to do so without ulterior
motives. I give because I'm genuine.
I give because I know what it's like
to be without, to long for and be
ignored, to speak and not be heard,
to car fr and have nothing
returned. When I give it's because
I get it. It's because I know the value
in what I have in my heart and I
refuse to let the world stop me from
sharing that. But when things start
being taken for granted. When you
no longer appreciate my sincerity.
I won't switch, I won't get angry, and
I won't be spiteful. I'll just get smart
and I'll change your role in my life.
Because when I give, I'm all in.
But when I'm done, there's no
looking back.
-Robert Hill Sr.
Love
FlowerGirl : )
FlowerGirls' Thoughts : )
When you start to know
someone, all their physical
characteristics start to
disappear. You begin to
dwell in their energy,
recognize the scent of their
skin. You see only the
essence of the person,not
the shell. That's why you
can't fall in love with beauty.
You can lust after it, be
infatuated by it, want to own
it. You can love it with your
eyes and your body but not
your heart. And that's why,
when you really connect
with a person's inner self,
any physical imperfections
disappear, become
irrelevant.
Love
FlowerGirl : )
someone, all their physical
characteristics start to
disappear. You begin to
dwell in their energy,
recognize the scent of their
skin. You see only the
essence of the person,not
the shell. That's why you
can't fall in love with beauty.
You can lust after it, be
infatuated by it, want to own
it. You can love it with your
eyes and your body but not
your heart. And that's why,
when you really connect
with a person's inner self,
any physical imperfections
disappear, become
irrelevant.
Love
FlowerGirl : )
Monday, March 13, 2017
Inspiration : )
Looking Through Love's Eyes
Goethe made a rather profound statement when he said, ''If I treat you as you are, you will remain as you are. If i treat you as you were what you could be, that is what you will become''. Those words of long ago express in a unique way what love is about. As i reread them for the umpteenth time, I think of the love in a family and they way we see each other. Looking at your mate as alive, well, and alert rather than nosy, or seeing him or her as exercising good judgement and thrift instead of being shallow and stingy, will have a profound impact on your relationship. If you think of your mate as being expressive instead of talkative, and if you consider him or her sensitive and caring rather than touchy, your respect and admiration for your mate will grow, and you will develop a deeper love, appreciation, and understanding of him or her.
When you take that approach, you will have mastered one of the great lessons of life-namely, that when you love someone, you do not react to the symptoms of behavior, but you respond to the need that your mate might have. In this process you will learn that love will always give you the benefit of the doubt. Over a period of time you will realize that you do that not because you want to do what is right, but because you have become that kind of person.
The underlying message behind all of this is that you can change, and in the process you will have a substantial influence of the life of the other person. Each of you will win, and as a couple, you will win. That's the way to beat the daily grind.
IF HE CAN, YOU CAN
Kacey McCallister lives in Keizer, a suburb of Salen, Oregon. He plays basketball, and in baseball he has been catcher and covered positions at first base and in the outfield. His play was so spectacular that a Little League team in North Carolina dedicated its season to him, and disable Boy Scouts in Georgia were inspired by him. People all over America have been inspired by Kacey, who lost both legs at the him when he was over by a truck a few years ago.
He does all of those things by propelling himself with his arms. He has a tremendous attitude and a determination to live as any other youngster wants to live, and the nation is applauding him. CNN sent a crew to the family's home to do a story on him. Kacey said he was more motivated than ever: ''I want to show them that I really can do all this stuff''.
In today's world when too many people complain about everything, here's a role model who is determined to make the most of life. Where do his drive, commitment, and enthusiasm for life come from? I suspect his mother and father are much of the source of his inspiration. Instead of spoiling him by catering to his whims and allowing him to feel sorry for himself, they've made the wise choice of encouraging him to believe in himself and letting him do everything he can do, while still being available to help when it is required. That's love in action, and the results are spectacular.
Love
FlowerGirl : )
Goethe made a rather profound statement when he said, ''If I treat you as you are, you will remain as you are. If i treat you as you were what you could be, that is what you will become''. Those words of long ago express in a unique way what love is about. As i reread them for the umpteenth time, I think of the love in a family and they way we see each other. Looking at your mate as alive, well, and alert rather than nosy, or seeing him or her as exercising good judgement and thrift instead of being shallow and stingy, will have a profound impact on your relationship. If you think of your mate as being expressive instead of talkative, and if you consider him or her sensitive and caring rather than touchy, your respect and admiration for your mate will grow, and you will develop a deeper love, appreciation, and understanding of him or her.
When you take that approach, you will have mastered one of the great lessons of life-namely, that when you love someone, you do not react to the symptoms of behavior, but you respond to the need that your mate might have. In this process you will learn that love will always give you the benefit of the doubt. Over a period of time you will realize that you do that not because you want to do what is right, but because you have become that kind of person.
The underlying message behind all of this is that you can change, and in the process you will have a substantial influence of the life of the other person. Each of you will win, and as a couple, you will win. That's the way to beat the daily grind.
IF HE CAN, YOU CAN
Kacey McCallister lives in Keizer, a suburb of Salen, Oregon. He plays basketball, and in baseball he has been catcher and covered positions at first base and in the outfield. His play was so spectacular that a Little League team in North Carolina dedicated its season to him, and disable Boy Scouts in Georgia were inspired by him. People all over America have been inspired by Kacey, who lost both legs at the him when he was over by a truck a few years ago.
He does all of those things by propelling himself with his arms. He has a tremendous attitude and a determination to live as any other youngster wants to live, and the nation is applauding him. CNN sent a crew to the family's home to do a story on him. Kacey said he was more motivated than ever: ''I want to show them that I really can do all this stuff''.
In today's world when too many people complain about everything, here's a role model who is determined to make the most of life. Where do his drive, commitment, and enthusiasm for life come from? I suspect his mother and father are much of the source of his inspiration. Instead of spoiling him by catering to his whims and allowing him to feel sorry for himself, they've made the wise choice of encouraging him to believe in himself and letting him do everything he can do, while still being available to help when it is required. That's love in action, and the results are spectacular.
Love
FlowerGirl : )
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