Relationships : )

                                                 Sometimes you should leave...





Good evening beautiful people!

While sitting on my desk and thinking the whole things the more angry I become. It gets me mad to the whole idea that relationships have become so impoverished. Although it may sounds stupid it is true. People have been taught this way. It does not matter if they like it or not. If they believe that this is the only way to survive the relationships' unending game they will continue to hurt people. In the end they will just count the ''dead bodies''. Because this is what we have become; Victims of people who did not think about nothing and they killed us, shoot us without second thought. And unfortunately those people we have loved them the most.

After so many glasses of wine I can't stop thinking of how many times we have been sacrificed for those people we loved. OK, for some people it might worth it and if we think about it as many times as we want we do not have regrets. But honestly, how many people were worth it for? Few, very few.

How many times did we stay with those people because of love? How many times did we stick on that relationship because of this bonding? Countless. Countless are those times that we instead of walking away from those people we forgave, forgot and moved on. We just ''fuck it''and moved on.

Sound silly, isn't it? But still, we did it. We have put ourselves on that wall and we gave the order to be shout in cold blood. Only because we were afraid of being alone. That motherfucker loneliness, that hurts people and mow hearts. We learned to be afraid of it so we have done unthinkable things to ourselves. Things that we used to swear that we never do.

Although we have said that we will not repeat the same mistakes of the past we did the exact same like real assholes. We were manipulated in awful ways, inexcusable choices. We have been relegated, to not be count and we have accepted it. And all these because we have done the mistake to love them. In the end love is an illness that kills you. It passes from one person to another, like epidemic kind of. Does not give space for improvement, you just count the days. One month, two years, six years. In the end you will die and you know it already.


For some death is total worth it. Sweet death- sweet as it gets. Others see you dying and they die with you. Others are happy because they lost counting dead bodies. Because you don't die only once. This is the drill. But you should end it. You won't last much more. At some point you just stop breathing.


Leave though before it is too late. At some point you should leave. Do not postpone just because loving somebody is a huge motive to keep a person in your life while he has done so bad things to you. Obviously it is difficult but it is better an end with pain, rather pain without an end.


Do not excuse people, do not forgive so easily. Do not become the shadow for no one. You were born to be unique, to stand out, do not condemn your self so as not be alone. If the other person can not handle the fact that you are unique do not give him so easy. Do not let no one to degrade you; you exist for you and for those you love. For those who worth your love, who have fought to earn it. Those that may have suffered, toiled but in the end they have earned it.

Acknowledge that the heart is like an unrestrained child in a toy store; It wants everything, it loves everything. Tame your heart; Use it to love the simple toys, teddy bears, trains. Not the Barbies or the porcelain dolls which once they break you realize they are empty.

Acknowledge that whatever has no solution, can be cut in a minute and whatever you can not do, means that you did not try enough to succeed it. Because love is not a motive to keep someone in your life. It is a reason, but it is not the only one.





Love. Flower Girl. x

Flower Girl's Thoughts : )

                                             Wife, mother, chick, friend...






Time passes. Goes like the water and never comes back, one said. You count your birthday candles, that you now need the lungs of a diver, bigger,  in order to blow them and still you can not believe that this whole number of candles is actually yours.

When did you get all these roles? Once a young girl without responsibilities, now a wife, mother, worker, housewife, with predominant of all the mother's one. And not only this, but how time flew by reaching almost the forties without realizing it.

But inside you, you feel the same like you were twenty and thirty in a more tiring version of it.

Time goes by. Your baby has become a grown up child, and when you talk to it you sound like your mother who you used to make fun of her or you eyes are closing from 8 pm and all of sudden it hits you: you are not in your blooming youth. But what does first youth mean and when does it end? Is there a deadline?

There are young people that live and think like old one, there people in older ages that think and act like they were younger, never rest and are far more active than younger people.

And when I refer to behavior, I do not mean to do things that are not appropriate for their age because each thing on the right time as we say. On the other hand everyone is free to do whatever they want. His/her life, his/her choices, he/she won't ask for permission.

You are full of life to do things that pleases you and so shall be it!You are active and you behave like you have wings on your back. Especially when you are with your child, who comes first above all.

When you became a mother, your ''endurance'', priorities, and ''desires'' changed once and for good and for always; in this case ''the always'' applies correctly.

You wake up in the morning, you get your children ready for school, you go at work, you go back home in the afternoon, cook, tidy up the house and then you put the music as loud as it gets and you dance with your children. You become a child as well and you enjoy every minute spending with them.


You fill the plastic pool outside the yard and play together, with your bathing suits. You run together, play in the parks, playgrounds together, we draw and paint and make things together. You don't watch them playing, you are playing with them. Because you can and mainly because you want to.

When you first gave birth, you had no other desire rather than to occupy yourself with your child and only. When a time period went by you came around from that feeling of pregnancy and gave birth, organised your life a bit and finally though this program your ''other desires'' came to surface.

Above all being a mother, but not only a mother. Your life is your children, but the man that you desire, your friends, your work and mainly yourself. You want to pay attention to everything. And you can do it with the significant help of the husband.

Thank god that the contemporary fathers help with the house and with the children. A balanced, happy mother raises balanced, happy children.

How can you manage all that, people ask you. How can you manage to have time to do this and that, they ask. Any woman who wants makes it happen; any who does not wish will find an excuse. The secret to the success is that you do not waste your time on meaningless things. Moments do count and there will be always work to be done.

Is OK that your living room is not perfectly tidy or that your sink is full of dishes to be done. You divide responsibilities on your people who are willing.

Some things can be combined; Leave the food in the oven and take your child to bed; or you can go to bed with your husband and spend some time with; Or you go to bed and your husband can manage the oven; If you need some time to sleep, it is a desire as well.

It is not necessarily taking care of your self to be a specific activity; it can be something lazy as well. You may wish to watch Games of Thrones, which most of your friends have already seen the episodes weeks ago and you are trying to avoid to watch the spoilers.

You may wish to spend 2-3 hours with your friends chatting with some coffee or go out for a drink, like you used to do 10 years ago. Times change, but the need to do so remains.

The secret is to enjoy every moment wherever the part you are taking; when you are with  your friends, being a friend, when you are at your workplace, being a professional, when you are with your husband, being a chick and when you are with your children being a mother.

And because of the fact that whatever you do, you like what you are doing and therefore you enjoy yourself, because you enhance power like falling inside the boiler drinking the Asterisk's magic filter!

In general everyday you are discovering that from the day you gave birth you have more resistance and you manage to make time to do all these while when you used to be younger and single, there was never enough time to do the half that you are doing now.

You recharge yourself, and make sure to do so, you refresh yourself, you change scenarios because in this way you work better on your roles.

Spirit and mind do not age at the same with the body. There are people who did not age, just they grew up and that's enviable!



Love. Flower Girl. x

Flower Girl's Thoughts : )

                                                 Separated and roommates





 Breaking up from a relationship and being a roommate with your partner is from one hand a bad scenario but from the other one is all clear up. But breaking up from a marriage or anyhow having kids in the middle, dogs, loans is a whole different matter. Bigger and complicated.

The second scenario of break up things are much more different, much more difficult. Especially when the couple must to live under the same roof. Either for a short time of period or longer. Either way the whole thing is uncomfortable and painful no matter the reasons.

Children are the main reason that the couple still share the same house together even if their paths are separated already, because parents live together in order not to hurt their kids, and later will slowly slowly announce their divorce, or perhaps until they grow up at a certain age to understand the reasons.

Two persons that became strangers, trying to live under the same roof ''for the sake'' of their children and at the end they make things worse. What does matter the most is not was ''it's shown'' but what it ''is''. What matters the most is not to appear or to be shown in the eyes of others a family, but to be in reality a family.

When you feel like there is nothing to connect you with this person anymore but you still stick to something that is unhealthy for both of you, it affects the children as well in a bad way because they understand the ''compulsively'' and feel the change. When you are forced to do something, forced to live with this person, how successful can all this be?

Then there is the financial part in a case like this. When all of the sudden the common account/fund has to separated which is something very difficult and not feasible in many cases.

Many couples have to live with each other because of financial problems just because they have no other choice? Separate houses, separate bills, kids' sustenance.

Sometimes one has no job, therefore the income is less and the person who is unemployed is not fully independent is the main cause that he has to stay most of the times. Because he has not learn to live alone or years have passed without a permanent job or not one at all and is very difficult for him to find one.

Consequently when this person has no earning and can not stand by his own, is not independent, the next thing he can do are more compromises and can not leave so easy. Pushing his patience's' limits since the less autonomic you are the less choices you have.

These are the type of people that live under the same roof without being connected anymore with those same things that they used to be connected years ago when they first started to live together. A relationship or a marriage. They don't live together nor because they use to each other, or because of love. The live together because of neediness. Because they can not do otherwise and can not afford it.

Because of the children or because of the money, however little matters. Whatever the reason, the moment you are being forced to live with this person, that you don't have anything more to give and stay with this person, ate the same time you have lost yourself as well, you have lost the other person and of course whatever you both used to have between you two.


There is nothing that left to hold on, nothing to keep you going.






Love. Flower Girl. x

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                     Some people will be always connected by something without explanation...






I don't know whether it's called chemistry or it can been scientifically explained. Honestly I don't care. Whatever we feel has no logic; If you try to put logic in feelings is like a death threat. Or is this that you desire? To kill it?!


Nevertheless hate to disappoint you because if you did for a moment succeed to rationalize your heart it won't last no more that a minute. For a moment. And then again you will be overwhelmed by your sweet inner haze. And for this reason and only I will not try to explain this mysterious and unbeatable power both physical and emotional attraction which can be developed between two human beings and overcome them.

It is a situation much deeper and intense than just a ''cock''. It does not want to call itself love although if it let go to exist, it would most probably to love. It might never admit its existence, but its intense in every chance reveals the engaged persons and leaves them exposed.

Perhaps those two person did not manage to be together to the present day. Perhaps they never might succeed it in the future when they are afraid to live it. There will be always something bonding them, which has tightened them on an invisible ribbon so as to pull each other together in every opportunity until they separate their paths again to search the reason why this ''something'' which bonds them can not be murdered.

This. The weird, familiar, unexplained, irritating ''this'' which does not look familiar with nothing else and no matter how many times they will put it somewhere in their head believing that it won't be shown or come out again, laughs with them until to the next stimulus.

Until the next time that something reminds him or her. When somebody will refer his or her name, that will cross by to their favorite place by accident, until a colleague will talk about him/her or even the worst scenario: they will run into each other's road.

Exchanging ''cool'' smiles but after they split the same moment will be frozen and replay in their mind the yesterday's scenes. Friendly hugs that when they are apart their bodies want secretly something more. The typical chats talking like hypnotized wondering how did they came to this now; they used to talk about everything and now they talk about nothing.

Those two who in the past they will jump to each other's mind with no mercy and they will literally about to explode. And if they did not put a trap to themselves they will do the same over and over again because this damn 'something' that bonds them is beyond themselves.

They will find other people to have fun. To forget. To feel passion. To be charmed. They will believe that with the help of someone of those others this something has left them for good. They connive though opposite one thing; This that they had the luck to share does not seem to something else that they have lived all these years nor are about to ever live again. It is not that they won't fall in love again nor that they will not move on with their lives. But nothing will ever be like that weird emotion that stir them up every time they were together. A feeling that they drowned and left it in the dark with the label '' it shouldn't'' or a ''bad timing''.

Even though the next that will come are ''cataclysmic'' , maybe more intense, maybe a real love etc, they won't managed to kill that one thing that they did not give the chance to live.This so weird, special so familiar that even time can not take;they will find themselves without wanting it of course in an environment seeking it. Wanting to feel it; Wondering why that particular person that manage to insert in them in a way that you find necessary.

And somehow. like this, two souls will be in a weird way always bonded wherever they are, even if the ''mind'' has forgotten. It will be always those ''two persons''. A story that is can not be deleted, can not be explained, even it can not find the light, it will always bring them together in unpredictable places, unpredictable way, in unpredictable time frames. Just to taste each other.

Their auras to be united even for a while since both still remind and look for each other secretly. To exist those ''two'' in an instant moment. Those two that overturned their meanings when they were together, and if they have decided to let themselves anywhere, anytime to live it again even for a night, will even overturned the balance of the universe; They will give everything and even much more to a union that has never existed; not even before.

Because, in case that you did not realize it by now, this that you inner world has chosen by instinct and once reminded you a powerful magnet, is the one that even you exile it in your subconscious will be yours because it will be for you and only. Don't be afraid anything that you can explain and understand. Don't be afraid the clearly and understandably. Because even if you feel in love one day clearly and understandably, it will be beautiful but not the same.

Be afraid of the baneful, the unexplained. This that you can not name but still  happened to you and fit almost like sickness. Be afraid like the devil afraid the incense because you want to live them more than anything else and you will desire this always; that's why you will always drive it off. Because it won't be something you can explain, harmless, neat feelings. It will be everything that can overcome you, all in one person. And that person will be always somewhere out there haunting you like a cross river to 'Give me life'' or to ''Kill me''. Be afraid of it because being so scary it will make you to choose usually the second one.  For this reason and only be afraid of it.
















Love. Flower Girl. x

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                       The today's trend ''I want to be alone'' is a sign that something is wrong







Has ever happened to you waking up one day and hearing your partner saying to you that he needs time? That he can't breathe anymore and wants to be alone? And your whole world is tearing apart in 0 time without know what has happened and the reason; Feeling alone and betrayed; The one decides to go without discussing it first leaving you helpless?

This trend is a usual and a very weird phenomenon in relationships. When you are feeling that you are in a good place your partner bombs you with a sentence: ''I need time to think'' or ''I need to be alone'' and after that you don't know what in the world has happened or what is going on now.

You start wondering what did you do wrong or if is your fault and the worst part of all is that when that moment comes you won't find answer to your questions since your partner will condemn your relationship, leaving you with hands crossed and numerous questions.

You overthink, you get angry; What went wrong? Who's and what's to blame for? Why did we not discuss it? Don't wait for answers. There aren't any. And not because the other person is selfish and thinks only his part. This is not the reason. You won't get any answers because there aren't any. What do I precisely mean?

These kind of people are weird and mysterious human beings. A person has this trend because he has condemn the idea of your relationship inside his head and he just can not find words or the way to spill it out to you.  He is afraid, sometimes he thinks is needless, he does not want to put his self in that process because his responsibility-phobia stops him. From his part though everything is over and there is no turning back so he chooses the easy path: to disappear.

From the other hand there are those people who has this trend because of some sort of addiction; Drugs, gamble and alcohol. Those dark sides, that a person might be hiding and afraid to reveal or say, for understandably reason, but can't live without them. And so he disappears. And when he comes back everything is rosy and the dust that he will throw on your eyes, it's so intense that you can't believe it since you are in love. Let's hope though that this is a rare kind of trend.

There are also people who disappear but they always come back. They are afraid to deal certain situations or they need for some time being to be alone until they feel safe again to run to their partner. And from the moment they know that their person is there awaiting for them, of course they will take advantage of it.

Weird human beings, anyway the issue though is not the one who has this problem in this whole situation but the one who has not this problem and knows what she wants. These people are in the worst place who know what they want but those are the ones that can put an end to this and decide the way to solve things. Who ever you may meet, whatever the case the person is, you are the one who get to decide.

See that something is wrong and ''edit'' it, to filter the reactions and dig the thing. Wherever there is smoke, there is fire, right? You should not choose to ignore your instinct when is says to you that something is wrong. Discuss it, analyse it and do not let it to go down. If you care about your relationship you should not close your eyes just because you are afraid to deal with what is really happening.

The people with the ''leaving trend'' have already decided. Regardless of not being able to handle it, or putting something else or their self above you; they have already condemn their relationship inside their head. But what about you standing opposite death's door? You can end this nightmare and move on or you choose to close your eyes and in the nights to fight your own demons. So what do you prefer? A redemption, acknowledging of what is happening and be brave enough to deal with it or the darkness, that you choose no exit?









Love. Flower Girl. x

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Love. Flower Girl. x

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