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Dare To Be...


When a new day begins, dare to smile gratefully.

When there is darkness, dare to be the first to shine a light.

When there is injustice, dare to be the first to condemn it.

When something seems difficult, dare to do it anyway.

When life seems to beat you down, dare to fight back.

When there seems to be no hope, dare to find some.

When you're feeling tired, dare to keep going.

When times are tough, dare to be tougher.

When love hurts you, dare to be love again.

When someone is hurting, dare to help them heal.

When another is lost, dare to help them to find the way.

When a friend falls, dare to be the first to extend a hand.

When you cross paths with another, dare to make them smile.

When you feel great, dare to help someone else feel great too.

When the day has ended, dare to feel as you've done your best.

Dare to be the best you can -

At all times,  Dare to be!









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At some point or another, we all feel a little bit lost in life. With so many decisions to make, so many unknowns making us question our existence, and so many responsibilities to juggle, our vision can sometimes become clouded. As humans. we want to know all the answers, but unfortunately, life doesn't really work that way. We simply have to do the best we can with what we've been given, and just try our hardest watch day to live life according to our principles and beliefs. Any time you feel like you've lost your sense of direction, refer to the following quotes below to get back on track.

1. Always remember that your present situation is not your final destination. The best is yet to come. You don't have to have everything figured out right now. Simply breathe, enjoy the journey, and don't take life so seriously. As long as you put in the effort and believe in yourself, you'll get where you want to be.
2. Sometimes the bad things that happen in our lives put us directly on the path to the best things that will ever happen to us. You can't always predict how something in your life will affect the future, but most of the time, the hardest things in our lives prepare us for a beautiful beginning. Trust the process, and count on your friends and family when times get rough. Once you make it through the storm, a rainbow will be awaiting you.
3. If you don't like where you are, move. You are not a tree. In life, we get to make choices, but oftentimes, we get mentally paralyzed just thinking about our next move. We stay in jobs we hate in towns we don't enjoy simply out of familiarity and fear of changing our lives. However, to live the most fulfilling, happiest life possible, change is necessary. You control your life, so you get to decide how it will unfold. Make sure you listen to your heart always.
4. You can't start the next chapter if you keep rereading the last. Remember to only look back to see how far you've come, not to wish you could turn back time. When you feel lost in life, just remember what you've learned from your past, and keep your eyes focused ahead on all the good things awaiting you.
5. If it doesn't open, it's not your door. When you feel lost in life, remember that if you hit a roadblock, you can always turn around and find a different way. There are may paths to take in life, and you might still be looking for the right one for you. Take your time, and don't rush your destiny.
6. Sometimes you need to step outside, get some air, and remind yourself of who you are and where you want to be. Sometimes, feeling lost in life just means you haven't had enough to connect with yourself. A walk in nature or even a short trip away from the hustle and bustle of the city could provide the clarity you've been seeking.
7. Sometimes you need to talk to a three-year-old just so you can understand life again.Adults tend to feel lost in life because we've lived through so much, and had to endure many hardships. Life tends to harden us a bit, and make us feel cynical and closed off. However, taking to a toddler might just make you feel better about life, because oddly enough, children seem to have this whole thing figured out pretty well.
8. Listen and silent are spelled with the same letters. Think about it. When you feel lost in life, remember to pay attention to what you hear in the silence. Quite your inner world, and you'll find exactly what you need. 
9. Sometimes, you have to stop thinking so much and just go where your heart takes you. Maybe feeling lost in life results from overthinking. To find your path, follow your intuition, and never give up. Stay persistent, and don't allow negative thinking to pull you in too deeply.
10. You don't have to have it all figured out to move forward. Sometimes, just taking one step can show you the staircase to the door you've been searching for. It doesn't take some grand plan to live a happy life. It just takes following your heart, and making a decision rather than waiting for the perfect answer to appear.
11. Never stop believe because miracles happen every day. Above all else, when you feel lost in life, keep your faith in yourself and believe in the universe. Suffering only takes place when we need to learn something from it, and darkness is necessary so that we may appreciate the light. You'll find your way - just keep going and don't let false thoughts discourage you.

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                Never forget these things.......





The 5 Most Important Rules to Remember in Life

1. Overthinking can ruin happiness.
2. Everyone is on a different journey.
3. Positive thoughts create a better life.
4. Kindness doesn't cost a thing.
5. The past cannot be changed.

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                                              My definition of love





My definition of love, is slow dancing on the kitchen floor while the moon points out which direction we'll be swaying. The music coming from the beat in his chest, calm and slow.
He'll look me in the eyes and never speak a word.

It's a sound so perfectly fabricated that not even God himself would not take credit for this creation.





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I learned that who doesn't look for you,
doesn't miss you and who doesn't miss you
doesn't care for you... that destiny
determines who enters your life but YOU
decide who stays... that the truth hurts
only once, and a lie every time you
remember it.

There are three things in life that leave and
never return: words, time and
opportunities... therefore, value whoever
values you and don't treat as a priority
whoever treats you as an option.














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A Mother is she who can take the place of all others but whose NO ELSE CAN TAKE💓💗💖

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                                           15 Habits of Irresistible People








You know that person who seems to have a flair of good luck? The one who, even though isn't drop-dead gorgeous, is always able to to get whatever she wants? There is more to the outer beauty of these people. They light up a room when they walk into it. This type of person is able to accomplish much in life because of attitude, charisma, or something as simple as kindness. Their smile exudes confidence, compassion and joy. You may wonder what separates them from others.

Dr. Travis Bradberry, author of Emotional Intelligence 2.0, has researched and studied the emotional connection of people. He has recognized that there are basic characteristics that make some people more friendly and charismatic to others.

''When influential people speak, conversations spread like ripples in a pond. And those ripples are multidirectional; influencers inspire everyone around them to explore new ideas and think differently about their work''.
Likable people are conscious of how they treat others. They believe that ''Few things kill like-ability as quickly as arrogance''.
Irresistible people don't act as if they are better than you. They actually believe that you have the ability to succeed, and create the life that you want. But, what's the secret to truly being this type of person?

1. THEY TREAT EVERYONE WITH DIGNITY AND RESPECT - Irresistible people don't put others down. What makes them so like-able is the ability to treat a homeless person in the same manner that he would treat the CEO to a huge company. To this person, there is no class or status that separates anyone. We are all part of the human race.
2. THEY DON'T GOSSIP. The charismatic person has no need to utilize gossip as their motive to partake in a conversation. They are always bringing in the best of themselves, and allowing others to shine. This is what makes them so generous in uplifting others. Gossip is a negative trait, and they have little tolerance for it.
3. THEY TREAT OTHERS AS EXPECT TO BE TREATED - Dr. Bradberry believes that these type of folks follow a healthy life rule that says you should treat others they way you wish to be treated. ''But that rule is flawed because it assumes that everyone wants to be treated the same way. In reality, people have different desires and goals''. The irresistible person understands this and follows not the golden rule, but the platinum one: treat others the way THEY want to be treated.
4. THEY HAVE HEALTHY BOUNDARIES. Irresistible people don't try to please everyone all the time. They know that there is a time and place of everything. They don't give more of themselves. They have healthy ways of assisting and giving to others. But, they never run themselves ragged. These people take care of themselves. And, in that ability to sustain boundaries, they show a beautiful example of self-love to others.
5. THEY ARE GENUINE - These type of people do not pretend to be someone they are not. What you see is what you get. They exude self-confidence. The irresistible person doesn't have to have super-model looks, but she or he will walk into a room with such confidence that they shine. They know their worth, and never allow others to dictate how they should see themselves.
6. THEY HAVE INTEGRITY. Albert Einstein said, ''Whoever is careless with the truth in small matters cannot be trusted with important matters.'' The person with integrity stands in their authenticity. They know what matters and this is passed on to others. They make you question your honesty, principles, and goodness. Integrity is one of the best characteristics that they teach others.
7. THEY SMILE AT EVERYONE - The most powerful and attractive quality that an irresistible person has is their ability to always smile, in spite of whatever is going on in their lives. They bring forth laughter with their energy. These likeable people know that a smile is sexier than any outfit, stronger than any pill, and has the ability to break down negativity.
8. THEY ARE COMPASSIONATE. The irresistible person is empathetic to others. They show compassion to animals, nature, and people. They know that one minute you might be on top of the world, and in an instant you can find yourself struggling. Being compassionate is not just about showing kindness to those you like, but also leaving the zone of comfort and stepping into take chances in loving others and they know it's worth it. They help everyone. They wear their heart in their sleeves.
9. THEY LOVE LIFE - Successful and charming individuals love life. They are not exempt hear ache, misfortunes, or challenges, but they know that life is priceless and it's the only thing that is real. This life is for taking chances, loving and helping others. They cherish every moment, and when they meet someone new, they make that person feel as if they are the most incredible thing in their day.
10. THEY BRING PEOPLE TOGETHER. These people are huge human connectors. They bring like-minded people together. They want to help others succeed. If you are among these type of enchanting individuals, you will notice that they immediately display a sense of connection. They may become your own fairy godmother, helping you reach to the next level. They will immediately draw you a map to get to someone who can help you on your journey.
11. THEY TRULY LOVE PEOPLE - This is given. These happy people love people. The irresistible person is the one who coined the term ''people person''. They love to be around others. They get inspired by energy and stories. The likeable individual has an ability to attract those who are ready to fly and conquer their own dreams.
12. THEY KNOW YOU MUST WORK HARD TO GET AHEAD. The irresistible person may always wear a smile, but they know that nothing comes without hard work and some struggling. They work hard and succeed with an undeniable thirst for accomplishing their desires. They succeed because they don't give up. And, when you are among this type of person, you also feel that ability to overcome anything ahead.
13. THEY LISTEN - Dr Bradberry say, ''People like to know you're listening, and something as simple as a clarification question shows not only that you are listening but that also care about what they're saying. You'll ve surprised how much respect and appreciation you gain just by asking good questions''. The irresistible person has this innate ability to state into your spirit and truly make you feel as if you are understood, acknowledged and loved. 
14. THEY HAVE POSITIVE ATTITUDES. In spite of all the challenges in life, these folks continue to have positive attitudes. They don't feed into negativity. They don't entertain the woe-is-me attitude from anyone. They avoid confrontations and always search for an optimistic answer to the heavy questions in life.
15. THEY ALWAYS SAY ''PLEASE'' AND ''THANK YOU''. The ability to show gratitude is a magic wand for the irresistible person. They know that compliments go a long way in the way journey of life, but what truly makes others like you are the simple manners: saying ''please'' and ''thank you''. These magic words and never misused, and they know exactly how powerful they are in making others feel understood, acknowledged, and accepted.

Irresistible people are those individuals who have been through emotional roller coasters and major transitional obstacles, and have learned that they aren't alone in this world. You might be so humble that you don't recognize how you are changing the world around you. These people know that we have a connection to each other. They make you feel as if you matter. And, that is one of the most profound effects they leave as their legacy: they truly see you, feel you, and care about you.

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Being strong doesn't mean
you have to stay and fight
all the battles and petty
arguments that come your
way. Being strong means
you don't have to stay and
respond to rude remarks.
Don't retort by throwing
insults back at them.
It's what they want.
Keep your dignity and don't
lower yourself to their level.
True strength is being adult
enough to walk away from
the nonsense with your
head high away.












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Don't allow the negative
things in you life to discount
the positive ones. Don't let a
bad day or month or year make
you fell like you have a bad life.
Instead of focusing on everything
that's going wrong, start holding
onto all of the things that are going right.
You may be struggling, but there is still so
much to keep fighting for - there is still so
much more to life than this pain. And if you
keep picking yourself back up and pushing
forward, no matter how difficult things are, you
will discover it. Maybe not tomorrow or next
week or a year from now, but someday soon,
things will get better. Someday soon, you will find
freedom from this darkness. And when you do, you'll
look back on these days and wonder how you could have
doubted your resilience. You'll look back and marvel at how
something as small as refusing to give up could transform your
life in such a substantial way.















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Daily loving, self-care is a habit that can make you more attractive to others. There are many ways to treat yourself right that can make a visible difference on the outside as well as how wonderful you'll feel on the inside.

Prioritizing self before other can feel selfish, but it is vital for your health, well-being and wholeheartedness. Your self-confidence is attractive to others so nourishing this inner resource is important.Let's look at 10 daily habits that make you more attractive.

When we think of attractiveness, we usually think of things that affect our physical appearance. However, not all attractiveness is external. Being attractive emotionally, spiritually and mentally is just as important for finding the right mate.

1. CONNECT WITH PEOPLE DEEPLY - We are attracted to people like us, and we also find likable people attractive. Being likable is easy; be more interested in hearing about the other person than you are in telling about yourself. Ask probing questions to understand the background behind people's actions, preferences, and stories. What is this person like when they are at home alone? What are their fears and dreams?
2. TREAT FRIENDSHIP AS A PRIORITY - Friends don't let friendships grow apart. By nourishing your friendships, you practice the skills necessary to sustain a happy romantic relationship as well. Friends make you smile and smiling is always an attractive habit.
3. LIVE THE PRESENT MOMENT - In a study of attractiveness in a speed-dating situation, women found men more attractive if they measured higher in mindfulness. This appears to only go one way for the sexes as men in the study did not find mindful women to be more attractive. Mindfulness is peaceful self-awareness. It is the knowledge that in the present moment, everything is just as it should be. Mindfulness is attractive because we shift focus away from anxiety or depression while we focus on the now. Mindful people tend to be more emotionally balanced.
4. MOVE YOUR BODY - Obviously physical exercise keeps a body in shape, and healthy bodies are more attractive than unhealthy ones. This is especially true of males and females who are looking for healthy partners with whom they hope to raise a family. When we think of someone who is attractive, they almost always possess grace in their movements. Balance and stretching, as well as mindful movements will help you to present yourself as an attractive partner.
5. NOURISH YOURSELF WITH EXCELLENT FOOD - Nourishing your insides helps nourish your skin. Radiant skin is always attractive and beauty starts from the inside. Think about a potential mate watching you as you eat. Would your potential mate be more attracted to you if they saw you eating some greasy fast food or dining on a gourmet vegan meal that you had made yourself?
6. KNOW YOUR SELF WORTH - Be sure of your value. Be confident in the fact that you are intrinsically valuable as a human being and more so because of your character, intelligence and kind actions. It's been said before that confidence is sexy, and self-love is the best way to build self-confidence. Project your value with your head held high. Meet the gaze of others directly and say to yourself 'I would make a great catch for the partner who is worthy of me'. Be careful not cross the line into arrogance. Aim for an attitude of self-assurance.
7. HAVE EXCELLENT SLEEP HABITS - Sleep ensures that our bodies are able to replenish their depleted resources. Making a habit of getting good rest also means that you'll look better physically; your skin looks healthy and your eyes are bright. Mentally, well-rested people are better able to cope with stress and less likely to fail to manage their emotions. Good sleep is a good self-care habit that can also make you more attractive to your potential mate.
8. MAKE IT A HABIT TO HAVE DOWN TIME - Self-care includes some time with no stress or concerns. Make sure to release stress by enjoying plenty of down-time. Again, visualize your ideal mate watching you as you relax. Choose an activity that feeds your soul like mindfulness meditation, yoga, or reading.
9. FORGIVE AND LEARN FROM MISTAKES - Self-improvement means constantly learning. Studies that question males and females about desirable traits in a mate show that 'psychological traits are important in human mating, with both sexes valuing intelligence and kindness very highly'. Intelligence doesn't have to mean that you have a degree. You can demonstrate intelligence to a potential mate by learning from mistakes and handling it well when you make one. You can demonstrate self-kindness by forgiving yourself for making a mistake in the first place, then, show that you've learned by avoiding the mistake in the future.
10. TAKE IMMENSE PLEASURE IN SIMPLE THINGS - In every moment you have a choice to be happy or to be angry/sad/afraid. Choose joy and gratitude no matter the situation. This moment and the smile on your face could lead you to find the mate that's right for you and who has their own matching inner and outer attractiveness.

AND ABOVE ALL THINGS, IT'S MOST IMPORTANT TO REMEMBER THAT YOU WILL BE LOVED NOT FOR WHO YOU AREN'T BUT FOR EXACTLY WHO YOU TRULY ARE. THIS IS ONLY MEANT TO HELP BRING YOU CLOSER TO THAT TRULY AUTHENTIC, LOVING, ATTRACTIVE SELF.

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How could you know if your broken relationship with your partner is worth saving? Is there a sure sign of things being beyond repair? We will look at some of the symptoms of broken relationships that can be revived, and some advice on how to save your relationship.

You and your partner have had your ups and downs, but lately it seems like you're in a deep one. Not every crisis has to mean the end of a partnership though. All of the time that you've put into this pairing is an investment that you want to see a return on. Don't walk out yet if your broken relationship is still worth saving.

1. YOU STILL TRUST YOUR PARTNER: There cannot be intimacy without trust and there cannot be a good trusting connection without open communication. Open communication is not about nagging or criticism; it is about expressing your feelings so you can both get what you need, and hopefully, what you want from the relationship. If sex has declined, it's not the end of your relationship. You can still have intimacy without intercourse through touching, and that might build enough trust to lead to being able to have more sex.
2. YOU SURVIVED CHALLENGES WITH RESPECT FOR EACH OTHER: Coming through the fire has made you stronger, not weaker, and your love for each other can still be enough to save the relationship. You've been through some hardships, but you've made it through the rough parts by each other's side. How your partner handles stress is a great determination of their character and it reveals a lot about them to you. If you survived a challenge and can look at your partner with respect for their courage, composure, and ability to find humor, you are a lucky person because your broken relationship is still worth saving.
3. YOU STILL BELIEVE IN THE POWER OF LOVE TO HEAL: Love is one of the most powerful forces on the planet, and we don't use it as much as we should. Give hugs, kisses, gentle shoulder rubs, and caresses to your partner as often as you think about wanting to do it. Physical contact helps stimulate the release of Oxycontin and that makes couples bond more strongly. Oxycontin  is called ''The Cuddle Hormone'' for a reason. It helps mother and child bonding, as well as romantic couple bonding. Oxycontin may also help with healing, literal wounds in the body, and with emotional ones also, so hug it out. Researchers looked at couples and their levels of Oxycontin while they talked. They found that positive communication patterns where couples could be upbeat with each other had the highest blood levels of Oxycontin. The study also found that higher Oxycontin levels had the power to heal. You can literally heal your broken hear with Oxycontin.
4. YOU ACKNOWLEDGE THAT YOU ALSO PLAYED A ROLE IN WHATEVER BROKE THE RELATIONSHIP: Maybe you did nothing wrong, but you didn't believe yourself worthy of love, so you couldn't truly receive the love that your partner was giving you. Relationshiprules.com has a great way of putting this; 'open yourself to embrace the fact that the other person is truly and actually madly in love with you and is ready to cross any physical or emotional barrier for you. This moment of clarity is the reality of every strong relationship'. How can you fix whatever is broken if you won't acknowledge that it needs to be fixed? There are two people in every relationship and both contribute to the health and security of the partnership. Neither one of you is blameless but neither one of you is completely to blame either. If you say nothing else, say these four sentences to your partner often; 'I'm sorry.' 'Please forgive me.' 'Thank you.' 'I love you.'
5. IMAGINE YOURSELF SEPARATED: Are you happy or sad thinking about breaking up with your partner? If you are happy, you will be smiling as you think about it. If you're not smiling, it's a sign that your broken relationship is still worth saving. A breakup can lead to a major depressive disorder or depression, which is a terrible consequence for your mental and physical health. Researchers looked at when depression was most likely to develop for teenagers. They found that 'The severing of a romantic relationship in the past year may set the stage, or at least one stage, for developing MDD (major depressive disorder)'. Depression can kill and it is nothing to brush off. Extreme sadness is common for people going through romantic relationship difficulties. If you feel depressed, seek help sooner that later.

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                                             5 Things You Should Keep Secret







It's not advisable to communicate the details of your life to everyone - because sometimes a listening ear becomes a running mouth. It is better to have your personal information kept to yourself rather than sharing it with everyone as discussing such issues most times usually have a disappointing result.

Here are five important things that you need to keep personal and do as much as possible not to share these secrets:

Your Innermost Thoughts

What you think about certain topics should be your believe and not what you try to inculcate into others. For instance, your thought about some spirituality issues, life or death would bring so much reactions of diverse kinds when you choose to make them a topic for discussion. Learn to understand that your thoughts are your interpretation and not the objective truth or you may likely get into some ill outcomes on such arguments.

Your Philanthropy

Giving a helping hand to a person or any other form of charitable work is very good and does a whole lot to the development of individuals and our society and its more value when you do not seek recognition for such benevolence. When you try to publicize how you have been helpful, it usually comes out to be some sort of boasting as many will have the thought that your initial intentions for such support was to seek popularity. There's much virtue in adding value to people and remaining anonymous.

Your Goals

Your plans ought to be guarded with all diligence until you are able to achieve them. Being loud about such plans can enable some other people steal your ideas and work on them better, dealing with loopholes you may not have noticed in your plans. If this happens, it will get you demoralized and regretful that you ever made your plans known to anyone.

Your Lifestyle

Certain details about your personality such as; your sex life, religious life, overcoming a bad habit, etc. are not of any concerns to the world. It's not worth it to put your emotional conditions out to all. Expecting appraisals from people is not necessary.

Your Family's Dirty Laundry

It is very disrespectful and unwise to bring stories of conflicts within your family to others. It devalues your person and bring more ridicule to your family as such stories are usually passed on by the people you told to some other friends of theirs and this will only make issues worse. Problems in the home are best resolved int he home as you share issues within the confines of your home, and with your loved ones.




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                                8 Ancient Beliefs Now Backed By Modern Science


The earth may not be flat nor is it the center of the universe, but that doesn't mean old-world intellectuals got everything wrong. In fact, in recent years, modern science has validated a number of teachings and beliefs rooted in ancient wisdom that, up until now, had been trusted but unproven empirically.

Here are eight ancient beliefs and practices that have been confirmed my modern science:

• HELPING OTHERS CAN MAKE YOU HEALTHIER 
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• ACUPUNCTURE CAN RESTORE BALANCE TO YOUR BODY
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• WE NEED THE SUPPORT OF A COMMUNITY IN ORDER TO THRIVE
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• THAI CHI CAN HELP ALLEVIATE A VARIETY OF HEALTH CONDITIONS
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• MEDITATION CAN HELP YOU REDUCE STRESS AND DISCOVER INNER PEACE
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• COMPASSION IS THE KEY TO A MEANINGFUL LIFE
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• ACCEPTING WHAT YOU CAN'T CHANGE IS KEY TO REDUCING SUFFERING
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• ALL YOU NEED IS LOVE

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There are many paths in life. But the longest of them all is the path to the heart. If you resist this path, you will take lifetimes to find it again. If you surrender and embrace it, you''ll be home.

We've all been blinded by the blanket of emotions that comes from falling down the precipice of union into love. While we only have one word for it, the ancient Greeks in their pursuit of wisdom and self-understanding, found seven different varieties of love that we all experience at some point.

When we understand the different types of love out there, we can become conscious of how deep our connection is with ourselves and the other people in our lives.

What different types of love are you currently experiencing and how are they impacting your life?

1. ''Eros'' or Erotic Love: The first kind of love is Eros, which is named after the Greek God of love and fertility. Eros represents the idea of sexual passion and desire. The ancient Greeks considered Eros to be dangerous and frightening as it involves a ''loss of control'' through the primal impulse to procreate. Eros is a passionate and intense form of love that arouses romantic and sexual feelings. Eros is an exulted and beautiful idealistic love that in the hearts of the spiritually mature can be used to ''recall knowledge of beauty'' (as Socrates put it) through Tantra and spiritual sex. But when misguided, Eros can be misused, abused and indulged in, leading to impulsive acts and broken hearts. Eros is a primal and powerful fire that burns out quickly. It needs its flame to be fanned through one of the deeper forms of love below as it is centered around the selfish aspects of love, that is, personal infatuation and physical pleasure. Love Catalyst: The physical body.
2. ''Philia'' or Affectionate Love: The second type of love is Philia, or friendship. The ancient Greeks valued Philia far above Eros because it was considered a love between equals. Philia felt that physical attraction was not a necessary part of love, hence the use of the word platonic to mean, ''without physical attraction''. Philia is a type of love that is felt among friends who've endured hard times together. As Aristotle put it, Philia is a ''dispassionate virtuous love'' that is free from the intensity of sexual attraction. It often involves the feelings of loyalty among friends, camaraderie among team mates, and the sense of sacrifice for your pack. Examples in Films: Girl with a Pearl Earing, The Girl Next Door; Love Catalyst: The mind.
3. ''Storge'' or Familiar Love: Although Storge closely resembles Philia in that it is a love without physical attraction, Storge is primarily to do with kinship and familiarity. Storge is a natural form of affection that often flows between parents and their children, and children for their parents. Storge love can even be found among childhood friends that is later shared as adults. But although Storge is a powerful form of love, it can also become an obstacle on our spiritual paths, especially when our family or friends don't align with or support our journey. Love Catalyst: Casual (Memories).
4. ''Ludus'' or Playful Love: Although Ludus has a bit of the erotic Eros in it, it is much more than that. The Greeks thought of Ludus as playful form of love, for example, the affection between young lovers. Ludus is that feeling we have when we go through the early stages of falling in love with someone, e.g. the fluttering heart, flirting, teasing, and feelings of euphoria. Playfulness in love is an essential ingredient that is often lost in long-term relationships. Yet playfulness is one of the secrets to keeping the childlike innocence of your love alive, interesting and exciting. Love Catalyst: Astral (Emotion).
5. ''Mania'' or Obsessive Love: Mania love is a type of love that leads a partner into a type of madness and obsessiveness. It occurs when there is an imbalance between Eros and Ludus. To those who experience mania, love itself is a mean of rescuing themselves; a reinforcement of their own value as the sufferer of poor self-esteem. This person wants to love and be loved to find a sense of self-value. Because of this, they can become possessive and jealous lovers, feeling as though they desperately ''need'' their partners. If the other partner fails to reciprocate with the same kind of mania love, many issues prevail. This is why mania can often lead to issues such as codependency. Love Catalyst: Survival instinct.
6. ''Pragma'' or Enduring Love: Pragma is a love that has aged, matured and developed over time. It is beyond the physical, it has transcended the casual, and it is a unique harmony that has formed over time. You can find Pragma in married couples who've been together over a long time, or in friendships that have endured for decades. Unfortunately Pragma is a type of love that is not easily found. We spend so much time and energy trying to find love and so little time in learning how to maintain it. Unlike the other types of love. Pragma is the result of effort on both sides. It's the love between people who've learned to make compromises, have demonstrated patience and tolerance to make the relationship work. Love Catalyst: Etheric (Unconscious).
7. "Philautia'' or Self Love: The Greeks understood that in order to care for others, we must first learn to care for ourselves. This form of self-love is not the unhealthy vanity and self-obsession that is focused on personal fame, again and fortune as is the case with Narcissism. Instead, Philautia is self-love in its healthiest form. It shares the Buddhist philosophy of ''self-compassion'' which is the deep understanding that only once you have the strength to love yourself and feel comfortable in your own skin, will you be able to provide love to others. As Aristotle put it, ''All friendly feelings for others are an extension of a man's feeling for himself''. You cannot share what you do not have. If you do not love yourself, you cannot love anyone else either. The only way to truly be happy is to find that unconditional love for yourself. Only once you learn to love and understand yourself, will you be ready to search for the spiritual freedom of the Self. Love Catalyst: Soul.
8. ''Agape'' or Selfless Love: The highest and most radical type of love according to the Greeks is Agape, or selfless unconditional love. This type of love is not the sentimental outpouring that often passes as love in our society. It has nothing to do with the condition-based type of love that our sex-obsessed culture to pass as love. Agape is what some call spiritual love. It is an unconditional love, bigger than ourselves, a boundless compassion, an infinite empathy. It is what the Buddhists describe as ''metta'' or ''universal loving kindness''. It is the purest form of love that is free from desires and expectations, and loves regardless of the flaws and shortcomings of others. Agape is the love that is felt for that which we have intuitively know as the divine truth: the love that accepts, forgives and believes for our greater good. Love Catalyst: Spirit.

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Thanks to the ancient Greeks, we can learn from all the different types of love in our lives. Because of these distinctions, we can learn that in order to truly enjoyments we must also search for greater depths through Philia and cultivate Ludus, avoiding mania as our relationships mature. It's through these efforts that we'll find Pragma in our soulmate or twin flame relationships. 

Finally, through the power Philautia and Agape we can come to understand how amazing our human hearts really are. Our hearts are the only thing in the universe that grow larger the more they give to others.

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                                     Why The Nicest People Have Suffered The Most
                                                             Damage In Life



Some struggle with calculus; others are dealt basic math. Either way, we all have to deal with what we've been given. Ultimately, what we're given is all random. Genetics, location and financial status - it's all one big luck of the draw.

Yet whatever circumstance life throws your way, you get to decide if you're going to be a victim or a survivor. You have complete control over whether life makes you sweet or sour.

And those who choose to be sweet - the survivors - are the strongest.

Swiss psychiatrist and author, Elisabeth Kübler Ross, once eloquently stated:

''The most beautiful people we have known are those who have known defeat, known suffering, known struggle, known loss, and have found their way of the depths. These persons have an appreciation, a sensitivity, and an understanding of life that fills them with compassion, gentleness, and a deep loving concern. Beautiful people do not just happen.''

In other words, nice people weren't born nice - they made themselves that way.

Nice people bring light into the world because they come from dark pasts.

In the world of darkness into which they were born, nice people use positivism as a lantern to create more light.

Nice people have often been dealt a significant amount of bad luck. They've been thrust into harmful situations and gripped by destructive circumstances, like toxic family member or poverty.

And they have learned not only to succeed. They've learned to overcome. They've kicked off their crutches and somehow done the impossible: They 've taught themselves to run and catch up to everyone else in a world that does not wait for anyone.

When everyone else was gifted a 20-count Crayola box set, you might have gotten a broken Rose Art crayon. But you used that poor excuse of a wax pastel to live a colorful life anyway.

Nice people will probably treat you better if they've been hurt by a former lover.

Why does this happen? Well, people who have had their hearts shredded know what it's like to tape the torn pieces back together. The brokenhearted never want to inflict emotional paper cuts on anyone else.

Nice people have learned the hard way that disadvantages are opportunities for growth.

It's more than possible that a few nice people used to be pessimistic. But over time, they usually learn - the hard way -  how to be positive.

Perhaps they came to realize that every little thing that seems to pull them down in life eventually becomes a stepping stone to success.

Or maybe dealing with an alcoholic brother taught someone the empathy and patience to deal with recovering addicts. Many therapists learned from a young age how to relate to people who are in pain.

In this way, nice people construct staircases from quicksand.

Nice people don't want others to hurt the way they've been hurt.

Nice people might have been teased for having freckles, big ears or acne. Maybe a physical disability makes them feel invisible to other people. Maybe an invisible disability itself prevents them from getting the care that they need. And because they know what it's like to feel tormented, they'd never want to cause anyone else that same kind of pain.

Kindness of harassing others, nice people break the cyclical nature of insensitivity. They give compliments and words of encouragement. They want others to feel truly beautiful and confident instead of ugly and hurt. They already know what that's like, and they wouldn't wish it on their worst enemies.

Nice people choose to be survivors who help others stay afloat.

Nice people can deal with any situation thrown their way. They know they can survive anything, because they already have. All of their scars are simply evidence that they can heal from new scrapes.

If anything ever knocks them over, they just shoot right back up and keep going. Knowing that they can endure, these nice people try to do what they can to help others pull ahead.

In the race of life, most runners usually only look out for and focus on themselves. But people who have suffered look out for those who might be going through similar struggles.

They cheer friends on, share their water bottles and motivate others to run with them.

They become the helping hand that they wised they'd had for themselves.





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                                      Brutal Truths That Will Make You a Better Person

1. Nobody is actually too busy to respond to you - That guy or girl isn't too busy to answer your text. That employer isn't too busy to answer your email. If you're not hearing back from someone, it's because they have deliberately chosen not to answer you. And the sooner you stop making excuses for  the people who don't make you a priority, the sooner you can move on to the people and situations that do.
2. Everyone Has His or Her Own Best Interests At Heart -  No matter how genuine, kindhearted or caring a particular person is, they're always going to be more aware of their own needs than they are of yours. Even the most attentive lover may not realize they're pushing your buttons if you never tell them they're doing so. Even the most honest employer may not be aware that they're working you into the ground if you just keep accepting more work. Unfortunately, other people are going to be aware that they're stretching your limits, but will nonetheless push you unless and until they encounter resistance. Most people are going to take as much from you as you let them get away with - which means it's up to you to define and uphold your own boundaries. The most powerful people aren't afraid to say 'No', to what they don't want to do - because they know that nobody's going to stick up for them if they don't stick up for themselves.
3. You Are Never Going to Please Everybody - If you actually listened to what every single person wanted from you, you'd end up a lifeless, shapeless, emotionless blob. And then someone would come along and tell you to be more interesting. The truth is, it's impossible to please everybody. There will always be someone who's offended by the most traditional life path or bored by the most radical one. You're going to be criticized no matter what you do, so you might as well do what you love. Because if there's anyone whose judgement you should listen to , it's your own.
4. The World Owes You Absolutely Nothing - You may be the coolest, smartest, most interesting person in the world, but if you're not putting any of those traits to work, you're entitled to absolutely nothing in exchange for possessing them. Truly powerful people know that there are two basic choices: You can spend your entire life feeling sorry for yourself because you deserve more than you're getting, or you can go out into the world and actually claim what's yours. Guess which choice the more successful people tend to opt for?
5. The Prize For Arguing On Behalf Of Your Restrictions Is Getting To Keep Them - You can spend your entire life loudly declaring to others that you don't have the time, money, energy or resources to accomplish the things you actually want. And all of what you claim may be true - but the harsh truth is, every single person on the planet has at least one damn good excuse for not pursuing the life they want. The difference between the people who get what they want out of life and those who don't is that the people who get what they want ignore their excuses. They find a way around their limitations, instead of just bitching about them, and that is the very reason why they succeed.
6. Your Actions Define You, Not Your Thoughts - You can sit indoors all day conceptualizing a better world, but until you get out there and start implementing change, you're not actually making a difference. Good intention is a wonderful thing but unless it's coupled with action, it counts for nothing. At the end of the day, your character is determined by what you do, not by what you think about.
7. Nobody Is Coming To Save You From Your Life - We all want to believe that the person of our dreams, the job opportunity of a lifetime or the surprise that we never expected is waiting around the corner for us. When we're unhappy with where we are, we irrationally hope that a drastic change in circumstance will come along and save us from our misery. But the truth of the matter is, life doesn't work that way. Nobody's heading your way on a white horse and if you want to see change in your life, you have to create it from the ground up. This is what the most powerful people know. When times get tough, the strongest people strap on their own armor, mount that white horse and come to their own rescue. Because they know that if anyone is going to save their day, it's going to have to be them.

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                           Fill your life with a positive faith that will help you through something

Be so strong that nothing can disturb your peace of mind. Talk health, happiness, and prosperity to every person you meet. Make all your friends feel there is something special in them. Look at the sunny side of everything. Think only the best, be as enthusiastic about the success of others as you are about your own. Forget the mistakes of the past and press on to the greater achievements of the future. Give everyone a smile. Spend so much time improving yourself that you have no time left to criticize others. Be too big for worry and too noble for anger.

Norman Vincent Peale






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                                         It's Never Too Late To Change



At any time, you can decide to change the road you're on in life, take a new direction, follow a new trail. You are the only one who really knows what you want from life and if you're on the right road for you. You are the only one who can fulfill your dreams and receive the joys and happiness that come from reaching those aspirations and goals.

Don't expect others to be responsible for your happiness and your success. You must take control and be in charge of your destiny and day-to-day situations. Take advice (most of the time it's free) and listen to what others have to say and what concerns they have; it's important to have different points of view. But always validate those words of wisdom with your own set of standards and make sure that the advice has meaning to your sense of reality.

You must understand yourself enough to know what you want in life and what desires you believe and worthwhile for your future. You need to depend upon yourself and your talents. Appreciate others for their personal skills and abilities, but always continue to focus on your own strengths and energies. Life is much too short to spend it worrying about someone else's accomplishments or expecting someone else to be responsible for making your life better.

If you have dreams, then you have a purpose. You have something to believe in and work towards obtaining. Dedicate yourself to yourself. Promise yourself a life filled with love, and then whatever roads you travel will be the roads you want them to be.




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                                      5 Anger Management Tricks That Make You Peaceful Again



Next time you're angry do these things....

''Anger management is the process of learning to recognize signs that you're becoming angry, and taking action to calm down and deal with the situation in a positive way. Anger management doesn't try to keep you from feeling anger or encourage you to hold it in.
Anger is a normal, healthy emotion when you know how to express it appropriately - anger management is about learning how to do this'' - The Mayo Clinic


While the above quote may be lengthy, it provides perhaps the most concise description of what constitutes ''anger management''. It's not the denial anger, nor the attempt to suppress any feelings that may surface about the emotion. Anger management is about learning how to deal with anger.Many of us have either experienced recurrent bouts of uncontrollable anger or known someone close to us who has. Tragically, the end-result of elevated, irrepressible anger is too often emotionally and physically Many deaths at the hands of someone else have been attributed to ''fits of rage'' or something similar.

We all experience this surge of anger - to various degrees - from time to time.
Perhaps it's when someone cuts us off in traffic, when a family member instigates conflict, or when a co-worker refuses to work together amicably. In these and many other scenarios, the temptation to resort to anger is highly compelling. Should a strong surge of anger rise, it's best to accept its presence and handle it. This brings us to the topic of this article: managing anger effectively.

Let's get down to it.

Here are 5 anger management techniques that''ll help keep you at peace:

1. Identify a possible outlet: Rather than focusing on the thing that made you angry, make a conscious effort to resolve the issue. Is your child's erratic behavior making you upset? Find something that will keep them occupied. Is your friend or family member doing something that pushes your buttons? Calm down and have a constructive dialogue or set some definite boundaries. Remain consciously aware of the fact that unchecked anger resolves nothing. In fact, the results is often much worse. Breathe deeply, maintain some self-disciple, and thing of a rational solution. 
2. Forgive and (maybe) forget: Forgiveness is one of the most powerful antidotes to resentment. Allowing anger and other negative thoughts and feelings to distort and disrupt daily life ultimately leads to nothing more than bitterness, anger, and pessimism. If you can forgive someone who brought about feelings of anger, you''ll both learn a valuable lesson. For you, the ability to forgive will reemphasize the truth that nobody can determine your state of mind. For the offender, the tolerance you exhibit may just be enough to remind them of the importance of remaining true to one's word. Should such a person repeatedly betray your sense of compassion, it's probably time to reconsider the relationship.Depending upon the frequency of mistrust and the nature of the offense(s), prioritizing forgiving rather that forgetting may be the best (and healthiest) solution.
3. Improve your listening skills: Holding your listening skills may seem like an irrelevant solution, but hear us out. When we're active listeners, we instantly improve the communication between person and us. This builds trust, and this trust can help mitigate potentially hostile thoughts and emotions. Demonstrating to another that you're truly listening accomplishes three things: (1) it shows that you care, (2) it shows that the other person's thoughts and emotions matter, and (3) it establishes or reinforces feelings of empathy. Sometimes, a person that's all worked up simply needs to be understood. Active listening accomplishes this need for understanding and much more.
4. Practice relaxation: According to the American Psychological Association (APA), relaxation techniques ''such as deep breathing and relaxing imagery can help calm down angry feelings''. The APA provides some specific practices that may help: - Breathe deeply from the diaphragm, as ''chest breathing'' will not promote relaxation. - Repeat reassuring words, such as ''take it easy'', ''relax'' and ''I'm in control'' may help. It is recommended to practice deep breathing during this exercise. - Using imagery, visualize something that provokes relaxation - either from experience or imagination. - Non strenuous exercises (e.g. yoga, meditation, tai-chi), can assist with relaxing the muscles while promoting relaxation.
5. Cognitive Restructuring: Angry people tend to swear, curse, or act erratically when confronted with a stress-or. The problem here is obvious - such behavior fuels bitter notions and renders impossible any potential solution. Cognitive restructuring involves nothing more than changing the way we think. The reason this method is so effective, as it pertains to anger management, dramatized and exaggerated when we're angry. Here's a practical example. We're waiting in line at our favorite coffee spot when the customer facing the cashier complains that their order is messed up. Understanding that resolving this problem will take time, a cynical monologue begins to surface in our minds. Instead of saying ''This sucks'', ''I'm going to be late'', recognize the situation and rationally replace them with something like ''This situation is out of my control'', ''I''ll remain calm, and they'll eventually figure it out'', etc.

When we make the conscious attempt to rationalize such thoughts, a favorable, outcome is much more likely. 

More importantly, when we practice this - and other techniques - and other techniques described above - we invite peace and contentment instead of anger and other negative states of mind.

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  When I give, it does not come with
strings. I'm not keeping track of
what you owe me. When i give,
I choose to do so without ulterior
motives. I give because I'm genuine.
I give because I know what it's like
to be without, to long for and be
ignored, to speak and not be heard,
to car fr and have nothing
returned. When I give it's because
 I get it. It's because I know the value
in what I have in my heart and I
refuse to let the world stop me from
sharing that. But when things start
being taken for granted. When you
 no longer appreciate my sincerity.
I won't switch, I won't get angry, and
I won't be spiteful. I'll just get smart
and I'll change your role in my life.
Because when I give, I'm all in.
But when I'm done, there's no
looking back.

-Robert Hill Sr.










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When you start to know
someone, all their physical 
characteristics start to 
disappear. You begin to 
dwell in their energy,
recognize the scent of their
skin. You see only the
essence of the person,not
the shell. That's why you
can't fall in love with beauty.
You can lust after it, be
infatuated by it, want to own
it. You can love it with your 
eyes and your body but not 
your heart. And that's why,
when you really connect
with a person's inner self,
any physical imperfections
disappear, become
irrelevant.
















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                                           Looking Through Love's Eyes



Goethe made a rather profound statement when he said, ''If I treat you as you are, you will remain as you are. If i treat you as you were what you could be, that is what you will become''. Those words of long ago express in a unique way what love is about. As i reread them for the umpteenth time, I think of the love in a family and they way we see each other. Looking at your mate as alive, well, and alert rather than nosy, or seeing him or her as exercising good judgement and thrift instead of being shallow and stingy, will have a profound impact on your relationship. If you think of your mate as being expressive instead of talkative, and if you consider him or her sensitive and caring rather than touchy, your respect and admiration for your mate will grow, and you will develop a deeper love, appreciation, and understanding of him or her.

When you take that approach, you will have mastered one of the great lessons of life-namely, that when you love someone, you do not react to the symptoms of behavior, but you respond to the need that your mate might have. In this process you will learn that love will always give you the benefit of the doubt. Over a period of time you will realize that you do that not because you want to do what is right, but because you have become that kind of person.

The underlying message behind all of this is that you can change, and in the process you will have a substantial influence of the life of the other person. Each of you will win, and as a couple, you will win. That's the way to beat the daily grind.

IF HE CAN, YOU CAN

Kacey McCallister lives in Keizer, a suburb of Salen, Oregon. He plays basketball, and in baseball he has been catcher and covered positions at first base and in the outfield. His play was so spectacular that a Little League team in North Carolina dedicated its season to him, and disable Boy Scouts in Georgia were inspired by him. People all over America have been inspired by Kacey, who lost both legs at the him when he was over by a truck a few years ago.

He does all of those things by propelling himself with his arms. He has a tremendous attitude and a determination to live as any other youngster wants to live, and the nation is applauding him. CNN sent a crew to the family's home to do a story on  him. Kacey said he was more motivated than ever: ''I want to show them that I really can do all this stuff''.

In today's world when too many people complain about everything, here's a role model who is determined to make the most of life. Where do his drive, commitment, and enthusiasm for life come from? I suspect his mother and father are much of the source of his inspiration. Instead of spoiling him by catering to his whims and allowing him to feel sorry for himself, they've made the wise choice of encouraging him to believe in himself and letting him do everything he can do, while still being available to help when it is required. That's love in action, and the results are spectacular.










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