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                                            Jennifer Aniston, you rock girl!


''We are complete with or without a mate, or with or without a child ''


What Jennifer Aniston stated on Huffington Post to paparazzi's hunting and women role models:


 ''Let my start by say that addressing gossip is something I have never done. I don't like to give energy to the business of lies, but I wanted to participate in a larger conversation that has already begun and needs to continue. Since I'm not on social media, I decided to out my thoughts here in writing.

For the record I am not pregnant. What I am is fed up. I'm fed up with the sport-like scrutiny and body shaming that occurs daily under the guise of ''journalism'' , the ''First Amendment'', and ''celebrity news''.

Every day my husband and I are harassed by dozens of aggressive photographers staked outside our home who will go to shocking lengths to obtain any kind of photo, even if it means endangering us or the unlucky pedestrians who happen to be nearby. But setting aside the public safety aspect, I want to focus on the bigger picture of what is insane tabloid ritual represents to all of us.

If I am some kind of symbol to some people out there, then clearly I am an example of the lens through which we, as a society, view our mothers, daughters, sisters, wives, female friends and colleagues. The objectification and scrutiny we put women through is absurd and disturbing. The way I am portrayed by the media is simply a reflection of how we see and portray women in general, measured against some warped standard of beauty. Sometimes cultural standards just need a different perspective so we can see them for what they really are - a collective acceptance...a subconscious agreement. We are in charge of our agreement. Little girls everywhere are absorbing our agreement, passive or otherwise. And it begins early. The message that girls are not pretty unless they 're incredibly thin, that they 're not worthy of our attention unless they look like a supermodel or an actress on the cover of a magazine is something we 're all willingly buying into. This conditioning is something girls then carry into womanhood. We use celebrity ''news'' to perpetuate this dehumanizing view of females,  focused solely on one's physical appearance, which tabloids turn into a sporting event of speculation. Is she pregnant? Is she eating too much? Has she let herself go? Is her marriage on the rocks because the camera detects some physical “imperfection”?
This past month in particular has illuminated for me how much we define a woman’s value based on her marital and maternal status…
[It all] points to the perpetuation of this notion that women are somehow incomplete, unsuccessful, or unhappy if they’re not married with children''.


Well said,  Jennifer and well written, I must say.

''This past month in particular has illuminated for me how much we define a woman's value based on her marital and maternal status. The sheer amount of resources being spent right now by press trying to simply uncover whether or not I am pregnant (for the bajiollionth time..but who 's counting) points to the  perpetuation of this notion that women are somehow incomplete, unsuccessful, or unhappy if they 're not married with children. In this last boring news cycles about my personal life there have been mass shootings, wildfires, major decisions by the Supreme Court, an upcoming election, and any number of more newsworthy issues that journalists could dedicate their resources towards''.

Being complete as a woman is our decision and only, adds our buddy Jennifer.

''Here's where I come out on this topic: we are complete with or without a mate, or with or without a child. We get to decide for ourselves what is beautiful when it comes to our bodies. That decision is ours and ours alone. Let's make that decision for ourselves and for the young women in this world who look to us as examples. let's make that decision consciously, outside of the tabloid noise. We don't need to be married or mothers to be complete. We get to determine our own ''happily ever after'' for ourselves''.




Love. Flower Girl. x