6 lies about ''healthy relationships''
Most of the times we hear from friends, colleagues and our environment in general what a ''perfect relationship'' should be. Sure, certain behaviours, gestures standards that you may to have for a ''perfect and healthy relationship'' are O K and we agree. Did you ever consider though that most of your beliefs and thoughts are just myths and are perfectly normal to every relationship? Most of the couples are facing problems and difficulties. Understanding and realising that relationships are not perfect and we based our models on stupid myths and ''wrong'' beliefs, is the very first step to a healthy relationship; we set our self free and live more the present:
''Conflicts show that the relationship is not healthy''
Well, I believe is the opposite. This means that the problems within the relationship are being oppressed and the couple does not discuss them. Letting the problems coming out and have a conversation about them, makes the relationship much stronger.
''For a happy and healthy relationship you should have the same interests''
Having the same interests is very helpful organising your weekend program but does not mean that it has be a rule as well. What counts the most is the mutual love and support for each other that will connect you and create a dynamic duo (even if he wants to go to his favourite rock band when he was a teenager and you prefer to go on a fancy restaurant on the city centre).
''Both should have the same opinion/view on everything''
Of course it is a positive thing sharing the same beliefs and ideas on certain matters. But again that does not mean that you should always agree on everything. Do not forget that there are happy couples out there that have different religion/cultural/political beliefs. However mutual respect and acceptance of different opinion/beliefs of the other makes the relationship stronger.
''There are certain standards that everyone should follow to have a healthy relationship''
Is this true though? We are all different as individuals, with our own personality so why should our relationships should not be the same? It is obvious therefore that there is not a certain model to a healthy relationship. Each of us has his/her own fears, dreams, expectations, needs, past, experiences. For this and only particular reason we should act according to our own very best and our partner that we are in a relationship because the relationship is between two persons and not more.
''There will always be the flirt''
At the early stages of the relationship sure there is flirt and love, which last couple of years but the truth is that it faints within the years. It is not something that will last for ever or stays intense as it was at the beginning.
''If you are with the right person, you should not have to try hard on the relationship''
Everyone is extremely complicated, so when two people co exist everything becomes even more complicated. Relationships, romantic or not, are a ''daily'' test to help us to evolve and mature. The challenges that we face within the relationship helps us to see and work our self better, so as to become much more mature day by day and therefore better human beings for our sake and our partner as well.
Love. Flower Girl. x
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