Good evening beautiful people!
We have chosen again the wrong person. Same old story, with new people in it. And you torture yourself with thoughts ''What did I do wrong?'' ''When will I get to meet the right person?'' ''Why do I have to suffer again?''; all these questions remained unanswered.
First of all, you are right. It's your fault, is our fault that we have to live the same thing again. He would have done it either way, people do not change all of sudden, and it has nothing to do with you. Most of the times he is waiting the cause, a motive which will give him the chance to hurt you. His cause is not your pain, but just an outcome of his actions. Is not about revenge but rather than chances and insensitivity. But we are responsible for this mistake, because we should have realized it earlier.
The next person in our life should go hell before accepting him. Because of the fact that you are tired with them, you should try to look and find for the right people. I know, it is difficult. But necessary, I will reply to you. I am not referring to the other half and love novels, but to real people and true feelings. Same criteria apply not only for relationships but for friends as well.
Leave on the side personal questions. Sounds strange to you. If you stop the questions he will speak by himself, no pressure and as much as freely as he likes. Too many questions will cause the negative results: he will feel that he is under pressure and will tell you what he thinks you want to hear. It is very important that you will give him space to express himself and relieve his true face. Time and space; that is what he only needs to confess his secret. And the truth will be distinguished among the lies.
So that leads us to time. Because my friends, relationships are now superficial and extremely fast. In a very short time from learning someone we end up in bed and looking for the nearest emergency exit. Relationships are like marathons. Relax, it needs time to work something out. A relationship that lasts three months, is not a relationship but rather an one night stand on duration. Do not trivialize its meaning by pressing the fast forward button on your life. Pay attention to the person that earned your interest, take your time to ''measure'' his value, before letting him coming in your life completely this time.
Be clear on those things that you wish for and you want to receive. Perhaps not from the very first day but definitely from the beginning. It's not bad to claim something; this is the reality. The bad scenario is compromising yourself with something less, and having in mind that you might get what you want some day.
You should never beg for love, support your ideal standards and claim them. But you should always have in mind that before demanding something, you should be prepared to give as well. Be emotionally available with clear intentions.
Try to understand him. Leave your ego for a moment and be on his shoes. As long as you can, try to see in his soul. What is truly hidden in there. Don't judge him for what he says or have been through if you don't understand him first. He will talk with you about everything and you should listen to him. Recognize the meaning behind the words, the person behind actions.
You have read all the above again, I am sure. So, by now you should have realized that the value of a person is measured in moments. Every single detail means something, a lesson that you can be taught from it. From all these people that came, left and hurt you there is something common: You! You have given your permission to enter in your life based on wrong criteria. Those criteria made you suffer from pain every time. So, change them.
Your criteria should be based on your ideals, on your aspirations. I tried to show you a way how you should observe them on people. But this is the most far I can go; A guide to a successful acquaintance. The rest is up to you, a problem that you should solve by yourself. Look for that person who meets your ideal standards, who responds your expectations. Nothing less.
The right criteria is the key to safety which protect us from wrong choices.
Have a lovely evening people!
Love. Flower Girl. x
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